shutupjames:

dearjimmoriarty:

lepreas:

Whoops fell in love.

I have a lot of thoughts about this. 

Anne—I’m assuming this is Anne Hathaway, looks like her, but I’m not sure—is following the dominant narrative of assimilation here. 

You know, “you’re just like us!” 

That works for some people, but those people tend to be privileged individuals without a multitude of intersecting oppressions and marginalized identities. 

Because I think that queer (as opposed to homogenous straight and LGBT power narratives) family values ARE alternative. And that’s fantastic. 

Queer family values operate on a paradigm of self-care and radical love against the dominant ideals of power structures and patriarchy, of capitalism and racism, of heterosexism and thin privilege. 

When Anne says that “being gay was—and is—no big deal” she’s right, but only to an extent. Like with “I don’t see color”, homogenizing gay identity can erase problems as well as beloved individuality in the community. And being gay—or queer—is a big deal in a society like ours, especially when it’s decided that the best thing to do is try to turn us all into assimilated, devoted citizens. 

One more thing—I know she means well, but I wish she wouldn’t say “I consider myself your family.”

No. You’re not even an ally unless we say you are. Too many people claim to be our allies who actively work against our humanity, whether it’s by fetishizing us or by sterilizing us. 

And why can’t love be a human experience AND a political statement? It is for me. 

That commentary.

(Source: barrowman-ilove)